Destiny is all
This is a subject that comes up with many of my clients who have any kind of anxiety or elevated stress levels.
People often find it difficult to separate their concept of themselves with the activity of their brain. The truth of the matter is that the real ‘you’ is not your brain. Your brain is a very sophisticated 2-million-year-old bit of equipment that has evolved to keep you alive and adapted to your environment.
One of its roles is to predict possible future outcomes. When this function is overactive, we develop bad thought habits such as always assuming the worst outcome, or excessive worrying. It’s important to say here that predicting negative outcomes is healthy to a degree, otherwise we would be completely careless and end up being run over crossing the road for instance. This is the brain working in a way that’s adaptive.
When this becomes overactive and we develop anxiety disorders, this is when the function becomes mal-adaptive and we spend increasing amount of time stressed out in survival mode
Anxiety disorders do seem to be a modern phenomenon and there is plenty of reasons why this might be. The culture has changed and the way we work and provide for ourselves, and our families is very different to how our ancestors did. Most of human history has been as hunter gatherers, so being in an office cubicle or on zoom calls all day is a big leap in adaptation for our ancient brains.
Another difference we must contend with is a change in religious and spiritual beliefs. One of the greatest antidotes to anxiety about the future is quite simply, acceptance.
What does acceptance look like?
Well, like it or not, the more religious members of the planet have a big advantage here with the concept of fate or destiny. Fate and destiny have been part of human cultures for as long as records go back. Nowadays it’s usually something that we see in Viking dramas on Netflix (you may have noticed the reference!).
Because this is more philosophy than religion, there is no spiritual requirements to benefit from this concept and it’s best described in this way:
If something is destined to happen, it will happen, no matter how hard you try to stop it.
If something is destined to not happen, it will not happen, no matter how hard you try to make it so.
Once this philosophy sinks in, you can see how it renders worrying about the future a pointless exercise. We can be careful, prudent, considerate and compassionate and still never worry about things. 99.9% of things you worry about will never happen anyway.
Once this sinks in, it becomes like a magic antidote to worrying and anxiety.
Relax and let the future unfold in it’s own time.
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